When we give some idea or something a positive or negative charge, we are creating judgment around it.
My coach told me this, and it was a “mind-blown” moment.
When I think something is good or bad, I am judging it. So, judgment is everywhere in my life.
My car is good, my diet is not. Judgment.
My job is good, my disease is not. Judgment.
I am overweight (bad), I am trying to fix it (good). Judgment.
But really, that judgment is a myth that I have made up in my head. It is a story I am creating and telling myself that it is true. And I can’t seem to stop it.
The challenge my coach gives me is to feel the judgment until it is no longer the myth and is just neutral. No longer judged.
I am finding this extremely difficult.
Over the course of my life, I find that I have learned behaviors that I fall back on and many of them require a judgment of some sort. This is where that myth of judgment comes from. I learned how to look at a situation and immediately decide if it was good or bad. In some cases, people will tell you this is a survival instinct gone wild, right? Humans over the course of history might need to size up a situation quickly to determine if it would hurt them. But, in this time, we don’t necessarily need to do that to survive. We do it because we are taught to do it as generations of people before us have been taught to do it. Learned behavior and a complete myth.
So, how do I get past that learned behavior? How do I get to the neutral?
This is the part that I am still learning how to do. And practicing. Lots of practicing.
I am writing my thoughts down and looking at my judgment. Looking at what the myth is. What is the story?
Then, I am trying to become neutral about the story. The myth isn’t real. I am learning not to judge me, to forgive myself for the judgment, to practice finding neutral.
I am also finding that this has been really hard to write. I have so much to say on this topic, and none of it flows smoothly into one post. So, for now, I will leave you with this:
What is the Mythical Judgment in your life? How are you practicing to get neutral?
More to come in another post in the future.