I am selfish.
I realized this week, how selfish I really am.
I have spent the last month complaining to others about my life. I am experiencing some minor difficulties, and all I am doing is complaining. To all of my friends. I am using it like therapy only a therapist would tell me to stop whining.
I had lunch with a friend yesterday, and I realized that I didn’t know one thing that was going on in her life because I was just talking about mine for the entire time.
So, I stopped to listen to her and her stories. Turns out, she is dealing with some significant health issues. The kind of chronic stuff that makes my chronic stuff pale in comparison. And she is one of the most positive people I know. She smiles and deals with all the curve balls that get thrown at her, and I never hear her complain about it. But, she was frank with me that she was dealing with a lot of very heavy stuff.
It was a wake-up call for me. My life is really good. I might have chronic pain, but it won’t kill me. I don’t have to make massive crazy changes to my lifestyle in order to live pain-free. I have it really good.
But what we have in common was we both don’t take good care of ourselves the way that would make us feel the best. We realized that while we were talking and the conversation to a turn to how we both weren’t valuing ourselves very much. It is a common thing among women. And we talked about how both our coaches and therapists had tried to get us to believe one thing.
I am the most important person in the world to me.
And she is the most important person in the world to her.
That led me to tell her about how I am trying to convince myself about this one idea: We have just this one life to live. We have to make the most of it.
It was a wake-up call for both of us in the best sense. I told her about my morning alarm from Gary Vee, “Wake up, you have one life to live.” I might “hear” that every day but it wasn’t until I explained it to her, that I really got it in my own head.
One life. One body. One planet. This is all we have. This moment, this now, this is all we have.
So, Today, I am committing to living my best life. I want to be healthy and active. I want to experience new things and explore the world. I want to be positive and happy.
No more complaining. It is time to own up to what is going on and deal with my part in it. Time to make my life what I want it to be.
Do you have these same thoughts? Do you realize that you only have one life? Are you happy?
I really hope you are very happy. If not, what one change could you make today to start a journey toward happiness?